Student’s Corner: Are You Enough?
by Ashley Lanuza
April 17, 2014 • 116 views
What does it mean, essentially, to be human? Is being a person to crave power or to crave equality? Is it pleasure and conformity or individualism and struggles? Our history books, though tedious and lengthy, speak to us about these human conflicts. And, confusing it further, implies it in both the positive and negative sense, through President Abraham Lincoln (power used for civil equality) and Joseph Stalin (power used for the Great Purges in Soviet Union Russia). Modern television plays with this concept, also, as shown in AMC’s The Walking Dead. The main character, Rick Grimes, is emphasized as being confused in season one, then peaceful, and almost indifferent, by season three. However, by season four, Rick has found himself and is aware of his strengths in the post-apocalyptic world. James Joyce conveys this idea in his book, A Portrait of the Artist as a Young Man, where the protagonist, Stephen Dedalus, encounters both these extremes as he struggles to find a balance in his life.
What is a balanced life? It seems that one aspect of your young life is out of tune when all the others are, rhetorically speaking, “perfect.” By personal experience, my own life has been at a surprising balance. Social, academic, family, spiritual, and self-being aspects have been at a mildly acceptable and perfectly tolerable state. At this point, I’ve examined what I have done to achieve this “moment in time” bliss. So far I know, it is realizing that you are enough. Further, it is knowing that you are more than enough for anyone, no matter who you are or what you do. Accepting yourself is where you can find the balance in life, as everything else simply follows. To know that you matter, and to find yourself, is a long and hurtful journey. I’ve gone from embarrassing myself by being overly self-centered to, years later, frustratingly quiet and timid- a “pushover,” as some would say. I’ve dealt with critiques at being too outspoken and being too quiet. For years, I couldn’t find that balance that I struggled to find every day. I was able to; however, find my strengths and my confidence with moral support and growing relationships. I am now able to believe in myself, in what I do, no longer shy to speak in fear of being critiqued as a know-it-all, or no longer posturing in order to prove my self-worth. This journey is ongoing, however. These passions might recede or mute, based on a turn-of-events. Interests, thoughts and beliefs may change. It is an ongoing and lengthy road to find you, the me-myself-and-I entity. However, it is important to remind yourself that you are more than enough, more than anyone could have possibly imagined. And when you know that, well…everything should fall into place like a game of dominos.